Venus in Scorpio – The Death and Birth (and Rebirth) of Your Relationships

Last week on Wednesday, November 21, 2012, Venus moved into the sign of Scorpio.  This is important because Venus in Scorpio often brings the death of some relationships and birth of some others.  Sometimes, it even brings both.

I’m experiencing the effect of this 2012 Venus in Scorpio cycle right now.  In my day job, a co-worker friend was upset upon learning of a particular detail of my employment status.  Because they didn’t agree with the choice that had been made, they ended up speaking many lies about me to other people in our workplace in order to do what they though would ensure and improve their own reputation in the workplace, and to further diminishing my workplace reputation in the process.  When I called them out for lying about me, they took it as a call for dissolving the friendship completely.  What I believed was an issue that could be worked through in a solid and enduring friendship proved to be anything but.

At first, the sudden dissolution of our friendship was very upsetting.  However, after some deeper consideration and thought, I realized that the lies were only the surface issue, and there was a lot that had been said and done that revealed emotional manipulation and other toxic behaviors over the course of our friendship – behaviors that I have been working diligently to clear from my life.  Once I saw the toxicity clearly, I realized that the end of this friendship is for the best.  I recognized that my prayers for having people in my life with healthier and higher energetic vibrations and behaviors are being answered, even if it didn’t seem like it at that moment.

I share my story with you to say this:  Whatever is occurring in your relationships, recognize that it is the answer to your prayers, in alignment with your heart’s desires (your inner truth), and/or aligns with what you are truly committed to creating for your life.

Now some of you may be experiencing the endings of partnerships or relationships, and you may be saying, “But I didn’t mean for THIS to happen!”  There are many occasions where we may be longing for change in a relationship, and we end up getting more than we bargained for when that change shows up in a much more drastic way than we intended or expected.

Recognize that when a more radical change occurs, one of two things is likely happening:

1)      The change you desired is not possible between the parties involved.  There may be too much for one or both of you to accept and/or overcome in order for that change to manifest, so the end of the relationship is brought forth.

2)      The changes you desire for yourself and your life are in the process of being manifest, and whatever does not or may not continue to support or serve that manifestation process is being phased out of your life.  For that reason, the relationship/partnership is ending and being released from your life.

Despite the pain and heartache that may come as relationships end during Venus in Scorpio, it is important to also recognize that when something ends, it brings forth an opening for a new beginning.  And under the current Sagittarius Sun, that new something is likely something or someone who will help you experience more personal freedom and independence, more personal growth, and more expansion of the things that ring true for you in the whole of your life.  These new relationships may actually be new.  However, they may also be renewals or rebirths of old relationships – relationships thought to have been done or gone.  You may experience these relationships as coming “back from the dead”.  Recognize that they are coming back to you for a reason – they are a chance for you to get really clear about a few things:

  • What did this person do to hurt you, and do you still feel hurt by them?
  • Do you have unresolved issues with this person, and would resolving those issues help you heal and move on?  Would resolving the issues enable you to have a relationship of some kind with this person?
  • Could this person be a support to you or serve a purpose in your life journey now – a support or purpose you may not have been ready for when they were in your life before?  Is the timing better or are the circumstances more appropriate now for you to have a relationship with this person?

Now if you are clear about what you want for yourself and your life, but you still don’t like what is happening in your relationships during this 2012 Venus in Scorpio cycle, it is important for you to ask yourself the following:

  • Is it possible that the ending of this relationship/partnership may be for the better for me and my life?
  • Is it possible that the ending of this relationship/partnership may allow the space for another, better relationship or partnership, to come into my life?
  • If I really look at that person for who they are and/or choose to be, do they really fit into the life I am committed to creating for myself?
  • If I really look at that person for who they are and/or choose to be, do I really fit in with the life they are choosing to create for themselves?

Under the influence of Venus in Scorpio, any relationships that are not in alignment with your inner truth will fall away from your life – they will “die”.  Usually that death is figurative – sometimes it is literal.  Nevertheless, if it no longer serves you life or if it is taking you off or away from your chosen (or destined) path, it will be released from your life.

This 2012 Venus in Scorpio cycle may not be an easy phase.  In fact, it may prove to be more challenging than other Venus in Scorpio cycles in the recent past.  However, this particular cycle is a very important one in this point in time.

Allow the relationship deaths, births, and rebirths to occur in your life at this time.  Pay attention to what they are trying to reveal to you and teach you.  You may then begin to recognize them as blessings in disguise.

Thank you for reading and sharing.  Until next post…

~ Light, Love, and Blessings,

Grace