Venus in Libra – The Balancing (or Parting) of Partnerships

At 7:04a PDT this morning, Venus leaves Virgo, the sign of practical purpose in everyday life.  The focus on how efficient and effective our relationships are in getting us through the day-today of our lives shifts.  Now at the heart of the matter is whether or not the relationships and partnerships in our lives are really balanced, peaceful, and good for both parties involved.

Venus now enters its natural sign of LibraLibra, is an air sign often represented by the image of scales of justice or balance.  It helps us objectively see where our partnerships are equal and balanced, fair and just, and peaceful.  It also helps us see which relationships help us look good, feel good, and create abundance in our lives.  With the doubled strength of the sign and the planet that rules it, this is a formidable energy to have available to us for the next few weeks.

Especially during this Sun in Scorpio cycle, many of us will be more aware than usual of the relationships and partnerships in our lives that are out of balance – where things are not fair, just or equal.  This is because Scorpio tends to extremes – all or nothing, in or out, right or wrong, good or bad, etc.  There is no compromise or gray area under Scorpio’s influence.  This will make Venus in Libra’s job a bit more challenging than usual as both Venus and Libra are in the business of diplomacy and compromise – they try to find (with great objectivity) that balance to make both parties happy.

Creating balance and fairness in an environment where those qualities have been lacking is challenging and can be frustrating if not maddening.  When matters are extremely out of balance, Venus in Libra doesn’t hesitate to go to the other side of an extreme in order to bring equilibrium to a matter at hand.  Under the current abundance of Scorpio energy (Sun, Mercury, Saturn, North Node), this Venus influence may seem more drastic than it actually is.  Some of us will see what is needed for balancing a relationship as an ultimatum more than an adjustment, and react accordingly. You may find that you want to throw the whole thing out – bathwater, baby, and all…yet that may not be the best way to face what you are dealing with.

First of all, if it seems that severe a shift, it’s probably a shift that has needed to happen but hasn’t until now.  It hasn’t only because you (or the other person) have resisted it for so long trying to see something as balanced and fair that hasn’t been either for some time now.

Secondly, especially if it’s a romantic partnership in question, we need to remember that Neptune is in its natural sign of Pisces right now.  Pisces energy can intensify the “rose-colored glasses” effect and have us glossing over some major injustices in our relationships in order to “keep the dream alive”.  It can also bring forth a sense of martyrdom and victimization in relationship matters.  In these imbalanced situations, it can be easy for us to rush to play victim to the other party involved, blaming them for not doing their part while relinquishing our own personal responsibility for the state of the relationship.

Venus in Libra creates a perfect space for you and your partner(s) to work these issues out.  However, if you have been trying to find a balance for some time now, it may come clear for the two of you that you are at impasse and that a peaceful separation may be best for both and all parties involved.

The key is that the conclusion of the partnership comes after every effort of diplomatic negotiation has been made.  You really have owned up to your part in the matter objectively, done everything you can to balance it out and make it work, and have mutually come to the conclusion that it’s time to bring the relationship to an end.  When this choice is made objectively and agreed upon by both parties, it is usually peaceful and in many cases easier to accept than if one person makes the decision and leaves the other behind to deal with it.

Questions to work with as Venus in Libra is with us for the next few weeks:

  • Which relationships are you recognizing as out of balance or are you perceiving as unfair?
  • In which relationships do you find yourself blaming the other person for not doing their part?  Ask yourself if you have done yours.  Have you been there for them?
  • What have you done to make the relationship work?  Can you allow yourself to see what the other person has done to make the relationship work?
  • Can you let this relationship go with peaceful and loving intention?  If not, what do you need to say to the other party to make your peace? Does it allow you to leave the relationship with love and a sense that this parting is for the best for both of you?

I’d love to hear how this 2012 Venus in Libra cycle plays out in your life.  Please post your comments or stories either here on the blog, or on the Life By Soul Facebook or Google + pages.

Thank you for reading and sharing.  Until next post…

~ Light, Love, and Blessings,

Grace